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All relationships are different. There is not such a thing as a ‘normal’ relationship, but there are healthy and unhealthy behaviors in relationships. If you feel unsafe or recognize any of the negative signs below, think about taking action or contact us for support.

We support all survivors of domestic violence, regardless of whether the abuse has been reported or when it took place. Our support services are free, confidential and voluntary.

Are you at risk?

It is crucial to know how to identify abuse. Domestic Violence can take many forms and builds over time. Below are 10 warning signs or red flags to be aware of. Visit One Love Foundation to learn more.

Intensity: When someone expresses very extreme feelings and over-the top behavior that feels overwhelming.

Manipulation: When someone tries to control your decisions, actions or emotions.

Sabotage: When someone purposely ruins your reputation, achievements, or success.

Guilting: When someone makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it’s your job to keep them happy.

Deflecting Responsibility: When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior.

Possessiveness: When someone is jealous to a point where they try to control who you spend time with and what you do.

Isolation: When someone keeps you away from friends, family, or other people.

Belittling: When someone does and says things to make you feel bad about yourself.

Volatility: When someone has a really strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared, confused or intimidated.

Betrayal: When someone is disloyal or acts in an intentionally dishonest way.

Warning Signs PSA

If you recognize any of the early warning signs in your relationship, there are people who can listen and help you decide your next steps. Without intervention, it is unlikely the abuse will stop on its own.

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For emergencies or after-hours assistance, please call the Illinois 24 Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 877-863-6338.